Inside the controlling world of feederism

Nowadays, obese women can inspire declarations of love and lust by going online and gorging on calorie-rich food for ‘fat fetish’ admirers. Often they take instruction about how much and what to eat from various male voyeurs via webcam. Of course, these women get to earn a tidy crust, too.


This is the world of sexually-inspired feeders and it comes with its own language. ‘Gainers’ or ‘feedees’ include those who generally fatten themselves up for pleasure-seeking purposes. Often, they do so with the support of a ‘feeder’ or ‘encourager’ – who might be an online fan – or a husband, partner, friend.

Some feeders delight in liquidising food and serving it up to their girlfriends or wives via large plastic drinking tubes in the ultimate act of crass sexual-dominance.

While many people find the concept of feederism alarming – even bordering on criminal; perhaps it’s inevitable that the trend will gain further ground, the direct result of a more permissive society and an increasingly obese environment.

Whatever your take, feederism makes 50 Shades of Grey look like child’s play. It is viewed by many psychologists as the ultimate form of sado masochism as it’s about control and submission via food and extreme weight gain.

One very popular site, Fantasy Feeder, entices obese women to eat more and find love, saying: ‘You want someone who will help you get dressed in the mornings when you can no longer bend over to pull up your skirt or pants, someone who will help you wash when you are too fat to fit in the bath or shower, and above all someone to cook and lovingly feed you when you are too heavy to get up from the couch.’

But while feederism be an alarming reflection of the western world’s obesity crisis, it’s also a sport that is increasingly hard for obese participants to sustain.

Until recently, the queen of feederism was an American called Donna Simpson, who made the Guinness Book of Records as the world’s heaviest mother. Though only 5t 4in tall, Donna’s claims she pushed her weight beyond 40st.

However, disillusioned and tired of being exploited, she recently cast aside her crown.

Having broken up with her ‘feeder’ partner, Phillipe, the mum of two was unable to cope with the limitations of her huge frame. So finally, Donna decided to lose weight.

In doing so she ceased sexualising her size, which saw men from all over the world send her money to buy pizzas, ice cream and donuts.

Donna said: “It’s fine to gain weight when you have a partner who will help feed you and take care of everything around you. But that’s between two adult people who make the choice. I realised that I couldn’t expect my kids to do that for me.

Of her fans, Donna said: “I realised that I was their fantasy. Here I was getting bigger and bigger, and they had their thin wives, with two-and-a-half kids and a picket fence… I just want to be normal and more active.”